The smallest tidbit of information left out, the tiniest mislead, the changing of one word..... all still rounds up to being a lie if you know the other person would want to know and you know by not telling them you're saving your butt in some way.
I am black and white on that. There is no in between area. I do not lie and I don't want to be lied to. Keep it real. Be honest. Upfront. Blunt if you so desire.
The thing is if you do this, this intentional leaving out things, sooner or later it all comes out and that makes you look bad. Even the worst of problems go over better if you're honest from the beginning. The tiniest of issues explode if you don't reveal it and someone else does.
For me, there isn't a question about now or later. Now is always better. I do suppose some people prefer to take the chance and hope it never reveals itself. Some people get lucky on a few occasions.
However, most people talk and the people they talk to, well, they talk as well. It's a circle and things get around. The bad thing is that things also can get embellished. Unfortunately, since there is a piece of truth in there it becomes almost too late for the embellishment to not be believed as well.
So, when you're trying to sugar coat something or get what you want or weasel your way out of a situation, just do it and be honest. Take ownership. You might not end up getting things your way or exactly what you want, but you will maintain your character. I might not like you or what you did, but I will respect you more for the truth.
There. That's done. My morning rant before work.
